Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Alright this week i have this problem. My boyfriend moved to Georgia today..hes in the navy and he was relocated. he loves it there! sounds beautiful. we plan to get married when i finish school but lately and i mean months now, i don't get along with my mom. its so awkward for me because have been best-friends for ever? and now i think she hates the fact that i am growing up and wanting to leave the house. i want to leave and go be with him so badly. I'm not your average young person, i was raised to have a lot of responsibility. I'm the oldest of 9 i understand all the hardships of marriage..Ive been through two divorces. i know how hard it is to be away from family i used to spend 6-7 weeks away every summer in California. if i choose to move to Georgia a house will be provided and money to actually move me there.... the navy assists you in paying bills. i know paying the bills wont be a problem its just actually getting up and leaving.. please if any of you have any advice id greatly appreciate it. thanks !!
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First I would not do any thing intil the semster is over. Then you need to ask your self if the reason that you want to move is really about being with him or is it just getting away from your mother. If it is just getting away from your mother that is not fair to him. So make sure if you do move down with him you are doing it for the right reason.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the previous comment about finishing out the semester first. That will give you time to think things over & be rational about your final decision. Your mom is probably just worried about you stepping out & making mistakes. However, just like I told my mom when I married and left home because my husband was stationed at Fort Bragg, NC: they are MY mistakes to make. I can't learn and grow from something that I've never experienced so I have to step out & experience things & see where it leads me. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself who or what you are making the decisions for: You? Your mom? Your boyfriend? My biggest word of advice for you is to make sure you are self-sufficient before you pack up and move because you do not want to put yourself in a position where you have to rely on your boyfriend or anyone else for money, etc. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.
ReplyDeleteBeing an Air Force wife It is hard to pick up and go and leave people behind but you do what you have to do. If you feel in your heart that it is time to move, then move. don't let your relationship with your mom get in your way of happiness but in the meantime don't ruin the relationship either. Sit you mom down and have a heart to heart conversation with her. You will feel better about it. If she dtill does nto support you then you have done all you could do. Good Luck whatever you decide.
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